As women, when we get married we sometimes do it with stars in our eyes. We believe the foundation of the relationship will stay the way it is for the rest of our lives. That's rarely the case. Once real life sets in including the demands of a job and children the dynamic of the relationship can shift. One area where the change is often very apparent is in the bedroom. If you are a woman in a sexless marriage you are likely feeling a whole range of emotions and you may even be questioning whether staying married is the right thing for you.

Equating intimacy with love is something that women generally do. When our husbands don't want to engage in lovemaking anymore we often take it as a personal rejection. If you are a woman in a sexless marriage you may be questioning what you've done to contribute to the situation. Perhaps you feel that the weight you put on after having children is playing a part, or maybe you are wondering whether your husband has taken on a mistress.

Most men will tell you with all honesty that even if their wives have put on a few pounds since their wedding day, they still find her just as attractive. This is rarely the case for a man's low libido, so if you've been fretting over this, don't. The other conclusion that women jump to when their husband is sexless is that he's not interested in her because he has a new lover. In many cases when a man is indeed cheating he'll actually be more attentive to his wife's intimate needs. Men do this because they feel guilty and also to quash any suspicion of adultery occurring.

If you are a woman in a sexless marriage you need to realize that the root cause of your husband's disinterest may be related to several things. If it's not a medical issue than you should pay very close attention to how he reacts when you do initiate lovemaking. If he says he is too tired or that the mood isn't right you need to read between the lines. He may be trying to tell you that there is something else out of balance in the relationship.

Most men aren't the communicators that women are and as such they often struggle with finding the right way to express how they are feeling. If your husband is experiencing stress because of work or something that is happening between the two of you this may manifest itself in the area of intimacy. He may feel less connected to you emotionally which translates to him feeling less of an urge to be intimate physically with you. Encouraging him to talk about what may be bothering him can be a great help. Just never approach the situation in an accusatory way. Let him know that you love and adore him and that you are willing to help with whatever issues may be troubling him.