So you have been separated for almost a year now and the divorce is near final, what to do? Once the divorce is final you are going to have to make some new goals for yourself. You are going to have to find a way for you to put the pieces together. You will want to do some things and you will want to avoid others, but you will want to make sure that you are on your path to happiness.

First, you have had all the time in the world, during the separation, to prepare yourself and to wallow. You will still have some feelings that you have to deal with, but it is not the same as you first felt. The feelings that you will want to deal with are the feelings of who you are and where you are going. You will still need to release these feelings, but you will also find that there are new things that you have come to love. You may love sleeping in bed before the early alarm. You may love the fact that you don't have to do laundry as much. Find all the things that you have found that make you feel good.

Also, learn to treat yourself. Spend on money on yourself pampering, because you owe it to yourself. That doesn't mean that you should go out on a shopping spree, but it means like ordering dessert at the end of the meal or taking a class at the local college, just doing something small for yourself every now and then. It will make you feel better and you also find that you can use your extra time doing anything you want to.

You should also seek support from your beliefs and church. Reach out to the community and get involved in some charity work. The charity work will help you to be distracted, but it will also help you to seek out new happiness and thrills. Just knowing that you are helping out another person will make your life and your time feel worth while.

Also, be aware of what you are feeling. If you think that you might be slipping back into a depression, you will want to get some help. You may need to get some medication to help you feel a little bit better, but you should also seek out counseling. This is the time where you need to think about yourself and what you are going to do. Make sure that you do everything you can to make it work out for yourself and for the future.

Divorce is hard, but it's okay over time. You learn to forgive and more on. You don't have to forget all the good times or the bad times. You should think about this as your second beginning. You can make your life just anyway that you want it to be. It's a new beginning.