Surviving an affair is not possible if the cheated partner is not prepared to forgive and trust again.

Surviving an affair to most people means staying together in their marriage or relationship, working things out and moving on together. But even if you choose not to stay in your relationship don't you think you still need to learn how to survive the agony that you've been through?

For many people the solution to infidelity is to leave their relationship, blame their ex partner or ex spouse for everything and hope that next time round they will find their Mr or Mrs right.

Then they go into their next relationship bitter and twisted, acting the same way as they did in the previous one but this time being less trusting because of their bitter experience. Sounds familiar? We come across couples all the time who have had a series of failed relationships and to whom it has never occurred that each one is the mirror image of the previous ones.

Have a look at the first paragraph again:

Surviving an affair is not possible if the cheated partner is not prepared to forgive and trust again.

You owe it to yourself to do these things. You won't just be doing them for the other person, you'll be doing them for yourself too. The freedom that you will then give yourself will make it possible for you to love unconditionally.

You are about to have a new relationship. If you stay in your current relationship or marriage you may be the same individuals but your relationship will be different. It has to be after what you've been through and if you do things properly there's absolutely no reason why it can't be better and stronger than it ever was before.

Or you may split up and eventually find yourself in a relationship with someone new.

Whatever the case, your new relationship will be much stronger and have a much better chance of surviving if you don't carry into it the baggage of what happened to you before.