It is not shocking to think that compromise could be a reason why most marriages fail. Think about it, we live in a world where every one is concerned only about them. This selfish attitude renders you incapable of trying to see where your spouse is coming from or respecting his/her opinion. Instead of ignoring their decision see how your decision can tie into theirs.

This way everyone will be happy. My husband and I are always coming into conflicts about how to raise the kids, religion, and finances. Finances in most marriages is the most common conflict of all and a main reason marriages end with divorce. There is always one partner who blows money and has a hard time budgeting. In my marriage, I was the one with that problem.

I loved to eat out, go shopping, and buy expensive things. Well my spending habits started to strain my marriage and my husband was fed up because at the time I wasn't willing to compromise. What saved our marriage was the birth of our daughter Camia. I finally realized life wasn't just about me anymore, I now had an innocent person who depended on me and I had to set an example for her. This is when I realized that compromise was essential in order for my marriage to work and for my daughter's sake. We built a plan so that every time we came into a conflict we would work it out by compromising. What we would do was sit down with paper and pencil.

Lets say the conflict was doing laundry. I would write my suggestions on my sheet of paper and he would write his suggestions on his sheet. We would then talk about the positives and negatives of our decisions. In the end, we would tie our suggestions together to make the big decision.